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Blogging the Unsuspecting II

08.15.2008 · Posted in Amusing - haha!

Bes asked a very good question: Do you feel you are writing or expressing less because of more offline people reading your site?

Yes and no.

No is the short answer. It depends on the nature of the post, and most of mine are about my daily activities, nothing too exciting. It keeps people in the loop. I show off some of my photos and share interesting websites too. My most prolific commenters are friends that I don’t see very often.

Yes. I do tend to write less or speak in tongues. I am human, and I get upset over things – often things that other people do. I’m more careful about using this as a place to vent those frustrations about specific situations, knowing that someone I know will read it and take it the wrong way. Often times, I think about blogging as a form of venting, but I realize that the feelings dissipate with time. I get over things, and if the readers are unaware of this, they might take it personally or see it as a form of passive aggressiveness when really, it’s no different from keeping a diary and being upset or frustrated to oneself. I’m not putting it here, so you can click over and read it and think it’s about you. I’m just venting where I feel most comfortable expressing my frustrations, allowing people I know and don’t know to comment if they want to.

Writing less means that I vent in other ways, such as just straight out whining to other people… I’m certain the ones I vent to could use a little vacation from me, so I’ll stick to speaking in code here.

If it gets too bad, I have the option to password-protect entries…

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  • http://thereasoner.com Bes

    Thanks for answering, Suki.

    That is indeed a good answer in my view since it seems you have put actual thought into it.

    I like the concept of speaking in codes – my whole website is a code, if one can look at it that way. Looking at your site and entries, I can feel that you are doing a very good job at switching between codes and other things [unless it is such a good code that I do not realize it :D, which may be the case for everything]. You are right – for some people [including myself], the website is a diary and some people express things differently.

    I like this sentence a lot: “I’m just venting where I feel most comfortable expressing my frustrations, allowing people I know and don’t know to comment if they want to.” I think that is a very, very good mentality. I need to incorporate that mentality into my mind more. : )

    Password-protected entries are indeed a solution for such things, though many people who look for traffic worry that such an idea will drive away a lot of traffic.

    If you do have a password-protected plan, would you be handing it out to a select few people that you already know, or can anyone request the password online?

    Thanks again for answering.

  • http://secrette.net/ Aein

    this is my problem, too. i think m’s family knows my website which makes it awkward when i want to talk about something that deals with him.

  • http://superduperfantastic.net/ suki

    @Aein: That’s a little hard and awkward…

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